Fat Fashion
 | Current mood:  disappointed July 3, 2006 Okay girls, this one is for you. I'm sorry, but someone had to do it. Who better to address this issue than me? Those of you who know me are aware of my features and physical attributes. If anyone can and should talk about fat-girl fashion its me. As I stated in my first entry, my second job is at an art gallery in a mall. Its great for people watching. I sit in a chair and the entertainment walks right by. I don't have to flip a switch or turn anything on, they just appear. Sometimes the entertainment is cute. I see little kids walking by, getting used to their mall feet, and they squeal with delight or make totally funny faces at me or walk in with big eyes at all the pretty pictures. Some times the entertainment is aesthetically pleasing to the eyes. On more than one occasion I have had the pleasure of seeing some of Gods finest work in the form of 20 to 30 something males shopping in herds or alone. Other times I see images that are sweet. I love to catch a glimpse of elderly couples holding hands and shuffling down the mall. They stop at the door, look in to see if something sparks their interest and then they smile at me and are on their way. Precious. Unfortunately, the things I see aren't always cute or attractive or sweet. More often than not, what strolls by my doorway are images that stir up feelings of horror and confusion. Ladies, and I use that term lightly, when will you figure out how to dress? When will you learn? As an overweight woman I have spent a lot of my life attempting to hide everything that needs to be hidden, cover everything that needs to be covered, and camouflage everything that needs to be camo'd. My rule of thumb pertaining to fashion is WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T. Reality tells me that if I think its ugly then there's a good chance that someone else might think its ugly, too. If I think something accentuates my fat, then it probably does. Ya see I'm not one of those skinny chicks that thinks shes fat, Ive seen the scale, I KNOW I'm fat. I'm not ragging on myself, I'm okay with me. I like me. I know WHO created me and I know that HE loves me so I'm set there. Ive been through counseling and realize that my issue is one that I can work on, and I am working on it. I don't have to have bad self-esteem to know and acknowledge that I have a weight problem. Its a real issue and its something I'm handling. So in an effort to continue to be real, I just have to confront all of these fat girls out there who are dressing like they are Paris Hilton. In this case, LESS is not more, less just SHOWS more. Trust me, if you are overweight and you re wearing skimpy, tight clothes it is NOT a good look. I just saw a girl walk by who had to weigh at least 200 pounds. She had a tight tank top on with no bra, and a pair of camo capris that cinch at the calf. Her pants were so tight, or her stomach was so big, depending on how you look at it, that they cut her in half at the waist. Her belly and back fat were hanging over her pants like a spare donut. It wouldn't have been so bad if shed been wearing a bigger shirt. Ive done that before. The jeans are a little snug so you compensate with a baggy shirt. But she wasn't trying to compensate. She had it all out there for the world to see and the world was looking and turning its head and puking. The really sad thing is that about 20 paces behind her and her not skinny friend, who was wearing something similar, there were five guys whispering and laughing at them. I heard one of them say, She cant think she looks good. The problem is that were told over and over again that we need to feel good about ourselves and we need to accept ourselves for who we are. I agree with this philosophy to the extent that none of us should position ourselves under a bus tire simply because were overweight. For one thing it would really scare the bus driver because the bump would be so big. Being overweight or fat isn't the end of the world. You re still a worthwhile person and can contribute to the world if you choose. But part of feeling good and accepting yourself is remembering to be real and honest with yourself. When you look in the mirror and see some hot chick standing there in a tank and capris, but get on the scale and it says you weigh more than say 150 and aren't over 5 foot 7 inches tall, you might want to re-assess. Ask yourself these questions. 1. Does my gut hang over my pants and is it visible because of the shirt I'm wearing? 2. Are my pants so tight and my body so big that my butt and stomach stick out in a proportionate manner? I'm not advocating bulimia or anorexia to get skinny. Stay the way you are if you're healthy and can do the occasional physically taxing task. However, if you have been told by at least one person that you are OBESE then you might want to get yourself into a program or start counting calories or something. Just stop wearing clothes that show too much because they don't fit or just aren't right for your body. I cant tell you enough that its not a good look, nobody thinks it is, not even your good friend who should tell you the truth but wont because she knows you'll get mad or hurt. So since you cant bank on anyone else being totally truthful with you, start being truthful with yourself when you look in the mirror. The worse case scenario of this will be that I wont have any more fat girl fashion blogs for you all to read. The best case scenario will be that you go out looking good for you. |
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