Minor Frustrations That Make Things Crappy
 | Current mood:  annoyed Category: Life Perhaps it's my attitude...I've been known to have a crappy attitude at times. Or, maybe, just maybe, I know a thing or two about a thing or two. Or, maybe I just need to vent. Regardless, I've got some down time and I've got a lot on my mind so here goes. Dealing with grumpy, misbehaved kids is one thing...dealing with their inconsistent parents who basically emasculate (or effeminate depending on the gender and whether or not that's really a word) the people who care for their kids is completely different. People who continually make excuses for their kids' poor behavior and eventually blame the people caring for them make me literally roll my eyes. You would think that after the majority of people who are in charge of the kids have talked to the parents about the poor behavior of the kids' that the parents would get a clue and perhaps look at what they are doing to exacerbate the situation. It's not a perfect world, however, and most often the parents don't want to admit that they are messing up and further more they don't want to take the time to invest in finding a solution. I'm also amazed at how people with counseling degrees rarely try to fix their own problems but will take any opportunity to analyze the people who confront them. I'm not a perfect parent by any means...after all I don't have kids. LOL. But I don't believe the absence of offspring dictates an inability to parent any more than the presence of offspring dictates the ability to parent. Lots of people who HAVE kids shouldn't, and lots of people who DON'T have kids should have them. It's hard to understand why things happen the way that they do, but one thing I know: poor behavior and choices in children either comes from genetic/biological issues or it come from the parent. Dealing the with parents of students can be difficult but there is usually at least a little bit of respect for the position of teacher, regardless of whether you have kids of your own or not. Dealing with friends and family who are parents, for instance in babysitting situations, is completely different...ESPECIALLY if you don't have kids. There's this attitude of, "What the hell can you know about kids? You don't have any of your own." The fact is that I may not understand all that it takes to be a parent, I may not know the day to day ins and outs or the sacrifices that parents make, but I DO know kids. The fact is that people either have a way with kids or not, and I believe that I have a way with kids...it's not anything I've done, it's what God has created me to be. Also, I'm not an idiot. It's not too hard to discern that when a parent disciplines for something one day and then lets it slide the next day, that it's inconsistancy. If a kid has a smart mouth and the parents don't correct the child then what behavior is that kid going to exhibit? Disrespect for the parents first, and then disrespect for others. It's pretty obvious, right? Wrong. If you have your head up your butt it's not obvious at all, and a lot of people I know have their heads up their butts when it comes to their kids. The sad part is that they are raising kids who are going to fail because they don't know how to deal with people or reality for that matter, and regardless of how far their heads are up their butts, the parents are responsible. They may not have to be accountable for it right away, but they will be at some point. My venting isn't going to solve anything, I realize that. I just had to gripe for a little bit. I know there are bigger things going on in the world than my frustration over how people raise their kids. But the future is a pretty big thing, and I think ultimately I'm frustrated about what is going to happen in the very near future to people who are very near to my heart. On another note, I'm really frustrated about my financial situation right now. I won't go into details, but I would really appreciate your prayers...I have some hard decisions to make and need some discernment to know what God wants me to do. On a final note, I am not settled in the house yet and while my housemate is trying to get things figured out, it's a slow process. The worst part is that I can't really help right now because I'm limited in my lifting and physical exertion due to internal stitches and my healing wounds from surgery. Pray for a low key attitude on my part. Pray for organizational clarity and knowing where to put things and making the best of the space we have. On a PS note, a friend of mine just found out that the company he works for is being bought out. His job will end in 5 months. Please pray God's will in this situation, pray that he will know God is taking care of things, and pray for peace for him. Okay, enough negativity. Back to watching cartoons with my niece. LOL. Love you all. Steph |
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